A friend recently realized how often I take the lead in organizing and planning group events for our friends. As a blue personality, I am naturally drawn towards being in charge.
Generally speaking, I don't mind navigating on road trips, looking up restaurant information, calling ahead for reservations, and finding out in advance what is happening around town which might be fun to do. She realized that she does NOT enjoy doing those things. Not only does she not enjoy those things, she spends a lot of time with other people who also do not enjoy being in charge. When this particular group went on vacation recently, they spent a lot of time sitting around, trying to figure out what to do. She realized that they didn't have a 'me' to take the lead and she realized how powerful it is to have someone in the group to research the options, make a suggestion and put things into motion.
After she mentioned that, and thanked me for always being willing to to that, I realized how often I jump at the chance to be the social committee. Planning parties, organizing elaborate themed birthday celebrations, spearheading events and road trips---all of those things are SO fun for me.
But sometimes I don't want to be in charge. I don't want to be the only one planning everything all the time. I also like being invited to things too.
This weekend we were supposed to go camping. I had even created a FB event so we could iron out the details of the trip. After I realized that a couple of people had to work today AND it might rain, I canceled the event. My step-sister offered to plan something for us to do and I let her take the reigns. So she sent out a group text inviting everyone stay the weekend at their house. And she followed up by saying that details about food and events would follow....finally yesterday, without another peep, she said, "Fend for yourselves for dinner on Friday..." and just like that the 'whole weekend' fizzled out and became just a cookout Saturday night.
So we ended up at El Vaquero eating a huge side of white queso, guacamole, chips+salsa, and fajitas for two (which really feeds four) last night. By 9:30, I was home in bed in a total food coma.
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